\u2018Tis the season to be\u2026 STUCK?\u00a0 (Yep, you guessed it as I started writing this in December).\u00a0 So, are you feeling a little stuck at the moment? Let\u2019s face it, we\u2019ve all been there, and, quite frankly, the feeling of being stuck can hit anyone at any time.\u00a0 AND yes, even I get stuck occasionally.\u00a0 It happened to me back in May. When visiting my ninety-eight-year-old mother in NJ (who sadly passed mid-December), a car went through a stop sign and totaled my car. I was fortunate to not have been injured seriously\u2026 Okay, I did need hand surgery to re-attach a ligament; but overall, I considered myself lucky.<\/p>\n
I was hit with something I was not anticipating, however, and that was\u2014I felt a little stuck.\u00a0 Feeling stuck can happen at any time and for many reasons\u2026 sometimes this can happen when something unexpected happens. I\u2019m not sure why a car accident would be a catalyst for moving into the void of being stuck, but sometimes you don\u2019t need a reason\u2026 it just happens. My being stuck was focused on one area, and that was my writing. I just wasn\u2019t feeling it.<\/p>\n
As I mentioned earlier, feeling stuck can happen for many reasons: a change, a limiting belief, a relationship or career issue, illness, or an unexpected incident. There\u2019s no rating system or hierarchy on the seriousness level for what has delivered someone to this paralyzing mental zone\u2026 it just happens, and once you land here, it\u2019s pretty much all the same. You feel frozen, locked in a time warp, a meltdown, a feeling of being in quicksand.<\/p>\n
I tend to be an especially positive person and always look for the upside in any negative situation. Perhaps there is a reason why this happened.\u00a0 Whatever the reason, it\u2019s best when feeling stuck to take a timeout, a time for a reset. It\u2019s constructive when you\u2019re experiencing a down feeling to lean into it.\u00a0 Don\u2019t try to ignore what you\u2019re feeling but rather try to understand it; befriend it, even laugh at it. Try not to fight but welcome the feelings you are experiencing.<\/p>\n
For me, even though the accident might have triggered my feeling stuck, I found it was more about not feeling inspired to write. My writing has always been about my passenger conversations and their life issues. To date, I\u2019ve written over a hundred essays about my conversations with passengers and coaching them to some level of resolution (www.drivinginsigts.net).\u00a0 And in them, I\u2019ve covered many topics: from coaching a married pregnant woman who wanted dating advice to conversing with college kids on their issues in their careers or relationships. So, I began to understand that I seemed to have covered so many topics, I was merely looking for something new to write about. I never panicked, understood what was going on, and just went into \u201cpatience mode.\u201d\u00a0 I decided that if it took a year to find my next story, then that would be fine. I accepted my condition, understood the void I was in, so I waited until, finally, a passenger from last week cured my feeling of \u201cSTUCK\u201d (and her story will be told next month).<\/p>\n
If you are feeling stuck, don\u2019t panic, lean into it, understand it, and most importantly\u2014don\u2019t be stagnate, take turtle steps\u2026 be open to right the ship, make a plan, and when the time is right, be ready get back on course. For the moment, I have escaped the quicksand holding me from writing, and prepared myself in case I step into it again.<\/p>\n
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\u00a9Jim Stern Coaching 2024, All rights reserved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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